Just me, Sometimes..

Behind the camera....

adoring the blessings of the world and my life

Whisper of the sacred space

 

While sipping my morning kashaya, staring at bright morning sun visible thru the window- railings and in background Sita-Ram bhajans, I paused and reflected at my beloved study table and asked myself what does it tell me of who I am?

The Bitterness of Kashaya helped me better align my focus to my thoughts :)

And when I wanted to capture the frame, I learned that somethings are observed better when we distance the 'me' from it and become the observer.

Coming back to my desk - I see two dry leafs, these were brought from pondicherry promenade beach, they were lying on the walkway near their tree and Their form, green color and vibrancy appealed to me so much that I wanted to keep it in my book, let it dry naturally and paint over it to make a card for a stranger friend who landed me a book to read at a park nearby, in my city.

One day, after office, I came home and was feeling extremely hot, for some reason I started to fan my face using the big dry leaf and my heart skipped a beat, I felt as if I can feel the Pondicherry Beach coastal breeze...I couldn't believe what I was experiencing!

..It could be that I love and connect with that place so deeply that I have forgotten the line of logic that seperate thoughts from reality...but I live and love in that space 🤷

Next is the Vibrant painting, the earthy colors of it that I filled sitting at Dakshin Chitra and this is one of such rare artwork that I wish to keep with me...

It brings me feeling of Joy, Grace, Beauty and Richness...abundance of ease and indulgence in the calling (how the portrait is calmly sitting and writing something or painting).

Then the filler items at my desk I.e. some herbal powder, a cup of steaming kashaya and the morning sun..on the window there is a decorative piece...a wooden ply block with a hook, board painted with two words (calligraphied)

 'Simply Blessed' and that means a world to me. I had picked this up at a $ shop...for one dollar 💰 and I still remember the affinity I felt for it... It was love at first site for me. Simply loved it so much! And everytime I see it, it amplify that love in me. 

To that wall hanger is a glass beaded Humming Birdy from Mexico but I got it as a gift from one of mexican Uber driver in US.

I was having long deep chats about my experience with humming birds, the movie 'Every little thing' and how I sobbed after watching it, and how I learned that in ancient times, birds were the winged messengers; when my ride ended, 

he simply asked - 'Saniorita do you want that?.'

It brings a sweet gentle smile on my face when I think of that moment...

What else?

I see a Notebook we got from one of the naturopathy Seminars, my work laptop, a phone and a thin book underneath the dry leaves which I borrowed from that girl at park...

Does these all tells me something much deeper about who I am and what calls me in my life?

Maybe...

Max Joy and contentment

 This morning, for some unknown reason, I felt elated and I asked myself, what brings me this ease and joy?

The answer was silly but it was true to me..

I was on terrace, arranging my empty plastic paint bucket upside down to be my chair while I sit to sun gaze..and I noticed steam coming out of my herbal tea...that moment was the marking of a slow and blissful morning, full of forgiveness to self and others, expansion of heart for life in it's whole form, gratitude for this moment and every single moment that lead to this one....

There was a moment of deep realisation that I am looked upon and cared for...my heart soaked in immense gratitude and I felt tears rolling down my cheeks... The happy tears.

Loads of Love and Joy Tan!

Unannouned Guests!

 I love it when some guests drop by unannounced, almost as if they have been visiting me all the time and walk all around carefree....leaving me in awe and wonder, when were these born, how many of them?, did I forgot about their existence in my neighborhood? Or have I been so aloof with the outer world?

But, one thing was sure - I experienced my heart melt and tender love overflowing, my being eased and I felt as if they make me feel I exist and I matter to them in a way that they feel so comfortable to just walk-in... unannounced and not one but a group of them!!

That quick visit shifted the frequency of my late noon...I went around them, all across the floors from my floor till the Ground and back, followed their meowing, trying to see where they are headed and if I would be able to pat them or just touch them 💕.

I loved how one of them went and hid itself amidst the flower pots, I get curious to learn their language, find meaning and know if they are talking to me or what amongst themselves...

The pretty??..may be handsome? Or both! —Cat gang!

(Two walked in, one left and this one in panic turned to leave but also paused to see me...I was left smiling at it's innocence and trust)

(Strong Mumma, Strong Litter)

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💕

My Escape : Movies on-board

For memory's sake, jotting a few magical moments from this trip:

Three months of constant changes at work, personal & professional commitments, travels and associated packing and planning!! Ufff...gets too much at times or say always...I guess I attract such busyness.

To get over the lingering fatigue from all these, the best way for me is to get lost in a story and while onboard, I start to unwind with some movie and those movies must feel like a calling...

My first movie was : Silent Friend 🍀🪷... Where there were research being done on plants and trees and how they are similar to us humans...who seek companionship, communicate, feel...just that they are not tied to a timeline (that's what I am able to put in words...in my limitedness of this topic) The whole story or say the play spoke to my soul...a belief I hold deeply in my heart.

Today, during my return and on the last leg of four hours from Singapore to Bangalore, I was not so keen on any movie but I also had to keep my mind to not get into time anxiety or the futuristic loop...by thinking of the pile-up of work so looked for a short movie and I came across a movie named 'A Good year'...the thumbnail of that movie on the virtual library of the flight screen appealed to me and then for a second, I reflected that this year too is almost reaching it's end...so might as well, I watch that one :).

I loved the slow paced living which was shown in the movie, I loved how time and again the movie beautifully recalled and reminded that if you find something good, you hold on to it..you let it grow,

What it is to love something beyond our own life,

While watching that movie, a dream was born that I wish to live that Countryside life someday and also do a small tour of France/ winery...🤞.

The songs of this movie steered something in me and I had to use the washroom to let my tears out, it was also some sort of strong homesickness I felt that I couldn't control my emotions from flowing...

Well, I am not hurt-proof or leak-proof...☺️💪

I tried distracting myself with various genres of music and constantly switching them, trying breathing exercises but wasn't much successful...atlast some Bohemian Rhapsody saved me from further embarassment..we will we will rock you!! (At max volume)

And overall, yup stories via movies or books keeps me going :)

When vegan (mistakenly had egg white omlette) failed and chips came to my rescue but wait...i also got a complimentary 150 SGD voucher and a swan emrald watch on my wishlist is ready...but need to find a Singapore address to get it delivered!

Fruits that are so chilled as if grown in a fridge not on a farm!

One that adds to the tooth sensitivity (yeah, the signs of aging)

Redwood trees and tiny me :)

Memories passed from generations 

(I picked up a small clay charm which has a mother holding a baby for my neighbour...I just loved it...even though it wasn't on sale...I asked them I would be willing to buy for a friend because she is gonna be a mommy soon and the boba shop owner agreed 💕)

Capitola and that one sight of a guy with his dog and boat...added depth and substance to this click

Who else! I love to pose...

 Guatemalaa (single origin) that I had ordered out of temptation for a hot coffee but gut-e-mala hogaya 😀 

The funny thing was I was keeping a note of what all I have purchased as gifts and the list of gift worthy people to consider 😃😃...

I wrote my name too ...coz 'Me apni favourite hoo!!'

Watercolour & a memory painted

 The best use of time on a plane ....

..and I had to deliberately be watchful that I drink water and not the color wash kept in the porcelain gold rim cup 😃

Greatful for many many beautiful memories 💕🪷

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Reshma Fry!

At that one bite of Nendra Banana fry, the realisation hit me hard that very soon these would be a rarity.

Things, people, relationship, friendship, anything that begins has a end and does come to an end...

My neighbour, my friend in crime, my laughter buddy, my 2am packing partner, someone who would cheer me up with watching Mr. Bean, my pillar of strength, my permission granter (Go buy that expensive stuff, go spend money on yourself, you keep giving people why not on yourself!?), one who would speak to plant like I do, we would do all the crazy stuff like to in parks and play in mud, bath in the beach behind her home (at native)

someone who speaks-up what's on my mind which I would have just lived in thought, she would sense if something is so wrong or when I would get hungry,

  someone who showered me with so much love...a love as pure as a mother's (and I am sobbing at this realisation)

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(7.35 am 26sep2026)

Yesterday, when I reached home, I prepared my lunch and she came to offer food that she prepared and I shared that I cried in cab...she is like while I am here eat whatever food I offer...as much you want..

Infact, I sat in her kitchen, on the platform and ate like a over pampered baby 🐥....

I cried, I ate, I spoke and I cried again....

Now that I am on my way to the airport, I am crying again....

What gives me peace is, she is gonna be in the best place to be while she move ahead in her motherhood journey 🪷💕🙏.

May she be well, her family be blessed. loads of love and blessings for that kind soul full of love and mischief 😊🐥.

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P.S. what I missed to mention, she makes awesome fry (South indian coastal delicacy) and I had renamed her contact as Reshma Fry! And what I was munching on was also Banana fry 🐒

Ways in which I showed-up for myself at work

 Ways in which I showed-up for myself at work 

1. Slow mornings: Taking an unapologetic late login at work.

- did gratitude journaling.
- EFT therapy a
- prepared Lunch box
- finished some of the daily chores.
- invited and accepted ease that comes along.

2. Self-care: Carrying my food (soaked nuts and seeds and vegetables juices) with me to work. 

3. Self advocacy: Pushing back on work that lacks process and is forced upon.

4. Creating a safe space for people to be themselves, where it was respectful to discussing difficult topics and express concerns and way forward.

5. Stayed focus on the scheduled agenda inspite of distractions.

6. Did self check-ins for my emotions and stayed true to it and aligned eg. When I realized I might be operating from kindness whereas I have been burnt in the past, I restricted myself and prepared myself to be flexible and be ready for surprises.

7. Respected and held my boundaries firm with such ease which feels so surreal to me. :)

8. Sometimes it also means reflecting at the feelings I feel and decline a lucrative offer... Just because that made my body feel relaxed.

Thank you, Tan for showing up for your self. 💕🌹🍉🌻

Not AI.. Just I

Amidst the chaos, trying to find the direction of my life, orientation to my day, my being, where every thing seems to be in some random momentum...

Work travel (BLR-SGP-US-SGP-BLR)
A change I am seeking and probably have it, but yet to decide about.
A disassociation (work) I need to intentionally balance
Projects I need to finish,
Assignments to be finished...and learnings to be implemented...

A Life I need to navigate...etc.

I chose to pause and feel my breath, the ease in it  when I doodle...

I felt as if the time paused....My heart was Joyous 

And now, all I need is to Sleep peacefully with Gratitude in my ❤️ 💜 

I found my four-leaf clover

Have you ever experienced a moment in your life when a situation seems to speak directly to your heart, and you simply know it to be true?

​I had one such experience recently, and I am overjoyed to share it here.

​The day I returned home after a two-week visit with family, I was unpacking my bag when I noticed that another charm on my handmade brass bracelet was missing. My colleagues and I had made these bracelets during a group activity. We each had hundreds of charms to choose from, though we were limited to selecting just four.

​I remembered helping a friend create one for her daughter during that session. I loved asking her about what her daughter liked; it was a brief but deeply meaningful conversation. Being in that observer role allowed me to glimpse a mother’s perspective—holding space for a daughter living far away in a foreign land.

​As for my own bracelet, each charm was chosen with care:

​The Blue Heart: A tiny heart, filled with small  blue crystal embedded in brass to remind me of self-love (I feed on love).

​The Solitaire Stone: An octagonal, diamond-like stone set in a brass cap. It felt so me—I’ve always loved single stones in jewelry, especially rings, much to my mother’s gentle complaining!

​The Rainbow: A brass rainbow with five arches, symbolizing a quiet promise that everything is and will be fine. Where the arches ended, it featured a tiny outlined heart and a star.

​The Clover Flower: A tiny brass clover with vibrant enamel colors on each petal. I had fallen for it instantly—love at first sight. I’ve always been fascinated by clovers, especially after learning how rare it is to find a true four-leaf clover.

​Over time, the charms began to slip away. First, I lost the blue heart. I told myself, It's okay, maybe a little girl will find it somewhere like a hidden treasure and feel loved. Then I lost the single stone, though I had no idea when or where. I let it go with gratitude, thankful for the joy it brought me while I wore it, almost daily.

​When I traveled home, only the clover and the rainbow remained. But upon my return, another had disappeared. My heart whispered, Maybe this is nature's way of telling you that you'll finally find a real four-leaf clover—the kind you’re always searching for in gardens, parks, and grasslands during the monsoon.

​I held onto that gentle thought, shared a laugh about it with my neighbor, and eventually let it fade into the background.

​Until this morning.

​I was arranging my diaries and books in my backpack for work, making room for my water bottle. Right there at the bottom, resting against the bright yellow lining of the bag, was the enamel clover. Its vibrant colors were practically smiling up at me.

​I paused, took a breath, and smiled right back.

​Indeed, I found my four-leaf clover. 🍀

Happy Gowri-Ganesha 🪷

What a day! Pressed, volatile, things coming together, festivals, meeting greetings friends and neighbours... remembering old friends etc.

What I loved the most about my day was that evening hour where I was the last devotee at the nearby ISKCON temple and sitting at the exit steps and enjoying the drizzle.

I was most alive and felt as if this particular drizzle was the one I could soak my being in...I was flowing with the flow of that breeze and drizzle, light at heart, ease in my being and heart filled with gratitude for everything and everyone that made my day. 🙏🪷

I was surrounded by Love and Grace 🙏🪷.

Happy Gowri- Ganesha!

A Habit & Feeling Loop

To Gemini: One by one, Ask me 5 Whys to get to root of a problem with a feeling and habit 

Scenario : when overwhelmed I catastrophize and feel panic and rush in my being and my mind gets clouded by emotions.

Let's unpack this together, step by step.

Starting with your scenario: When you feel overwhelmed, you catastrophize, experience panic and physical rushing, and your mind becomes clouded by emotions.

Why 1: Why do you think your mind immediately jumps to catastrophizing and panic when an overwhelming situation first arises?

I feel that panic only brings me close to attending to myself, else I don't know how to be comfortable in my being and be accepting of it

That is a deeply honest realization. It sounds like panic serves as an emergency alarm—the only signal strong enough to interrupt everything else and force you to pay attention to yourself.

Why 2: Why do you feel that you need an extreme state like panic or catastrophe to grant yourself permission to attend to your own needs?

I get a feeling of guilt if I priortize My own needs so possibly to avoid that guilt and be a good girl in society, one who is accommodating

It makes a lot of sense how that conditioning operates. The panic and catastrophe essentially create an unquestionable crisis, giving you "legitimate" permission to focus on yourself without having to actively choose yourself over others.

Why 3: Why do you believe that prioritizing your own needs before reaching a breaking point makes you unaccommodating or a "bad person"?

I feel all my life I have avoided taking responsibility of others, family, but stayed away from family, especially mom who unfortunately is trauma trigger for me.. Also I feel time is rushing so I better priortize others n when I get time will attend to me... So I feel relieved and less guilty or at ease in my body.

Thank you for sharing that so openly. It reveals two powerful, interconnected weights: the belief that time is constantly running out, and the heavy duty to put others first to compensate for staying away from your mother.

Why 4: Why do you feel that prioritizing others' timeline over your own is the only acceptable way to prove your worth or make up for keeping distance from your mother?

Because I didn't get married and don't fit in the good books of society and relationships and that had caused a lot of trouble and shame for my parents (possibly) so I don't want to end up being so abandoned from people whom I know or they know me.

That shows immense self-awareness. You’re carrying a heavy burden: using compliance, speed, and over-accommodation to build a shield against abandonment and to compensate for perceived shame.

Why 5: Why do you believe that fitting into society's expectations is the only true source of safety and belonging, even when maintaining that facade requires abandoning yourself until you reach a breaking point?

It's a loop, I feel my wins i.e work success only when my family feels happy and proud, inspite if me not feeling belonged to that life. I have no one to call freind or family outside work, it all feels that I am valued because m earning and self dependent so far. 

Please deconstruct this belief system and give me some practical grounding exercises

Thank you for sharing this. What you’ve mapped out is a incredibly clear, self-aware picture of a survival strategy that kept you connected, valued, and safe for a long time—even though it now costs you your peace, your bodily ease, and your sense of self.

Here is the step-by-step breakdown of how this loop operates, followed by two immediate physical and mental grounding practices to help interrupt the cycle when the panic and "rush" take over.

1. Deconstructing the Belief System Loop

Your system operates like an automated cycle where each stage triggers the next:

[Societal / Familial Expectations]

             │

             ▼

[Perceived Guilt & Fear of Abandonment] 

             │ ("I'm not married / I chose a different path")

             ▼

[Compensatory Habit: External Productivity & Serving Others]

             │ ("Validation comes from work, money, making them proud")

             ▼

[Self-Abandonment & Suppressing Your Needs]

             │ ("Time is running out; I'll attend to myself later")

             ▼

[Internal Crisis: Overwhelm, Panic & Catastrophizing]

             │ (The body's ONLY way to force you to pay attention to YOU)

             └───────────────────────┘

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Key Breakthroughs in Your Loop

Panic as a Protection Mechanism:

Panic isn't a flaw; it is currently your body's only available tool to force you to pause. Because guilt blocks you from taking intentional rest, your nervous system generates a "crisis" (catastrophizing/panic) so that attending to yourself feels mandatory rather than selfish.

Conditional Belonging & Worth:

When your sense of safety relies on making others happy or being "self-dependent and earning," work and external performance become your proof of existence. But because this isn't rooted in what actually feels true or fulfilling to you, the wins feel hollow, reinforcing the feeling of isolation.

The False Binary:

Your mind has set up a strict rule: Either I conform to traditional expectations/serve others completely, OR I will be abandoned and unloved. Grounding yourself involves building a third option: Self-anchored belonging, where you give yourself permission to exist and rest without having to earn it.

5 Whys

 I am trying the 5 Whys technique to resolve a deep-seated belief about money. Please help me Question my responses one by one.

Scenario : I feel Guilt and pain for using my own money even for simple things, thinking someone might need them more and that I should provide.

The 5 Whys technique works best when we peel back one layer at a time without rushing ahead.

Starting Statement:

"I feel guilt and pain spending money on simple things for myself because I believe someone else might need it more and I should provide for them."

Why #1: Why do you feel personally responsible for providing for or solving the unmet needs of others before meeting your own basic or simple needs?
I don't feel that money is my own nor my need as a need; rather, it feels as if because I have money, I want to spend. Providing for someone makes me feel satisfied in my being. And Providing for someone makes me feel satisfied in my being.

Why #2: Why does money feel like it does not truly belong to you, and why do you view your personal needs as mere impulses rather than legitimate requirements?
I fear own-ing Money, growing-up I felt I am a burden to my family and possibly I am trying to pay back which I also know I cannot. I fear that having too many needs makes one feel weak when time comes

Why #3: Why does acknowledging your own basic needs feel like a dangerous weakness or vulnerability, and what do you fear will happen if you stop trying to "earn" your place by paying back that unpayable debt?
growing-up parents fights over money became a trauma for me and I felt if i express my needs it might distance them more or say if I save money by not having needs, it might help to save a bond of love.
Somewhere I believe Money safeguards a bond or a love between two people or else they depart

Why #4: Why does a part of you still believe that love and connection are so fragile that they depend on you erasing your own needs, and why does spending money on yourself feel like a threat to the safety of your relationships?
Because someone will get hurt or feel bad and I didn't want that.
People with money felt a threat to my Dad's (struggling to meet ends) image as I saw mom (coming from a affluent family) comparing. Spending casually felt like I am betraying my loved ones who doesn't have money...and a guilt will takeover me and will pinch me deep

Why #5: Why do you carry the subconscious belief that staying in financial self-denial is the only way to remain loyal to your father's struggle, and why does thriving independently feel like an act of betrayal rather than simply living your own life?
I was a child when I experience this and financial self-denial was the only way I could support my Dad/ Mom. Thriving independently reminds me that somewhere someone might be getting compared and relationships may be getting damaged.

You have reached the core of the 5 Whys.
What started as a surface belief—guilt over buying simple things because someone else might need it more—was never actually about money or the strangers who might need it.
As a child caught between your parents' conflict, you developed an extraordinary coping mechanism: you made yourself small, erased your personal needs, and adopted financial self-denial as an invisible shield to protect your father's dignity and preserve your family's bond.
To your subconscious, spending on yourself equated to aligning with the "threat" that hurt your dad, while giving away or withholding money felt like the only way to remain loyal, safe, and loved.

The Core Realization

The Childhood Truth: Erasing your needs was a brilliant survival strategy for a powerless child trying to keep love intact.

The Present Reality: You are no longer that helpless child. Taking care of your basic needs today does not diminish your father, betray your family, or break existing relationships.

The Shift: You do not have to stay in struggle or self-denial to prove your loyalty to the people you love.

Never

 

The 'later' which became never...

slowly but steadily.

The wait - in a hope to meet...

Which became endless unfulfilled moments filled with intentional distractions...

...

A fact, a fate, a choice, a pain, a mistake, a suffering, a yearning, a familiarity...

The previlege of a conversation

These days, our meetings have become a rare occurrence. His days are mostly spent in hospitals, attending to his ailing mother. During one such rare meeting at a café: Me: "How are you?" He (with reddish, tired, sleep-deprived eyes and a forced smile): "I am doing okay... Let's discuss something else." Me: (Instantly, like a radio, I start throwing out all the details of) my life—work, new learnings, family, travel—endlessly. Even in my detachment, every bit of my being feels a deep need to care for him, hoping this light banter might offer a moment of easy distraction. I held his hand and pressed his palms, assuring him that all would be well. He (opening up): "Seeing both parents suffer, one after the other, takes its own toll..." I nodded in agreement. After a comfortable pause, I asked: Me: "What is your relationship with relationships?" He: "Frankly, I don't know... I am still learning. One of my past-life regressions revealed I was a monk and a warrior. In this life, I have never had anyone around for very long... Except for you." Me (feeling a deep sense of ease and gratitude for his honesty, rawness, and surrender): "Then why am I still here? What role am I meant to play?" He: "I don't know, but I believe it's something from the past. Dad once said a girl from the north would be a big pillar of support..." Me: "Hmm... I’m glad you’re aware and true to yourself. All the way on my ride to the café, I was wondering about that exact question." Our conversation drifted on for another few minutes over herbal tea. What surprised me most was the profound ease in my being—no judgment, no security seeking, no rush to anchor where I belong. Perhaps I have simply accepted my life’s course as it is. I have lived—or chosen to live—numerous such battles alongside him throughout his life. At times, it exhausted me and deprived me of a traditional partnership, but every season was teaching me something deeper. It is a privilege when a relationship can move from Nothing to Something to Nothing again—consciously. For me, it has become a act of service: to be the quiet witness of a soul unfolding, seeing a man in control of his senses, a devoted son, a friend in need, a safety net, and a fearless being... who sometimes just needs to be reminded that he is loved, thought of, respected, and worthy of ease.

Before wrapping the day.

 All we do is - make a list of things I feel greatful for and Doodle 😌.

Feeling in love 😘...

For the blessings that surrounds me.🙏🌸

For the humbling side of life.

For showing me again, the 'intent' is the biggest deal.

And that doodling can make you feel free!...

Happy Saturday to me🕺🌸🌹. Loads of love Tan!

Echoes of Presence

यह मनचला मन,

कई बार... ले चलता है मुझे

उन जगहों पर,
उन फिज़ाओं में,
उन यादों में...

ताकि,

अपने अकेले आज में,
बिछड़े उस एक एहसास में,
फिर से ढूँढ सकूँ उस 'मैं' को—
जो तब वहाँ होकर भी नहीं थी,
और अपने आज में, न होकर भी है।

80 years of Independence 🇮🇳🙏

 I feel proud to be born on this Land - Bharat and a family which inculcated that Love for Motherland 🇮🇳🙏

भारत माता की जय !🙏🇮🇳

Deeds of heart vs mind

Many times, a pattern repeats itself in life, leaving us to wonder what our response should be.

Should we follow the heart or the mind?

The mind projects into the future, often driven by fear and worry. The heart, however, lives only in the present—it asks simply whether a decision brings ease to a burdened life or offers someone that much-needed breather to keep going.

Recently, I found myself in just such a situation. I went through deep emotional and mental churning—journaling, meditating, seeking blessings at the temple, and relying on my breath to quiet the noise. I even reached out to my cousin brother to ensure I wasn't acting purely out of ungrounded emotion.

His response was a blessing: If you have the capacity to support someone in need—someone capable, yet caught in life’s storms—do it. Consider it a clearing of past karmic debts. Act from the heart, with zero expectation of return or outcome.

I had asked the Supreme for a sign, asking to be guided toward the right deed, to surrender, and to operate with detached awareness: I am the soul, the observer, not the doer.

Then, I heard Krishna's flute. To me, that was all the answer I needed. 🪷

Long Rides

However much I feel stagnant in my personal life, riding on my bike on long route... be it alleys or broadways makes me feel in control of it.

Atleast, I am always sure of the direction of my ride inspite of no destination on my mind.

I feel a different kind of liberation, maybe it's the after effects of wind blowing on my face and my hairs and some ideologies that my mind would have gathered from all the Bollywood cinemas...

I noticed my thoughts starts to flow, they open-up and doesn't not sabotage within. 

I made it a point to find a reason to ride... Refueling , getting Lunch, some grocery, veggies or fruits shopping or even finding a ground to walk barefoot... Or just to sleep under a tree at a nearby lake temple..

After a long time, probably the weather also played a big role here, I loved my ride today.. So mundane, unplanned but it filled my heart with joy, I felt as if my body left all of the bottled up emotions and is free now...

And after returning home I took a deep nap 😴 as if I am the Alice in my own wonderland 

🛵😜🪄

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The ride the soul takes within this body— 
fueled by memories gathered across lives—
defines the journey we call life

Dakshin Chitra 🪷

 

Sometimes being at a space you feel home at..

Doing things that may look meaningless or useless (when seeking outwardly validation)...

Being in nature and with it's pace with surrender at the core of heart and to the effort,

Brings eternal joy and ease ...

Breaks away Ego...

Give moments of deep breaths and deep questions to reflect at..

Makes one aware about the desires and flow of life...

Thank you to Vande Bharat which got me there and which waited ~9mins for me to be able to board at the 9th min....

💕

Ishq de mere mitra pehchaan ki, mit javay jadoon zid apnan di ... asli pyar ka matlab haasil karna nahi hota 

(dialogue from Namaste London)

11.29 pm

And I can spend a whole day at a coffee shop!
Just like that...

While waiting for a friend to drive me down to another nearby city, I completed my two hours classes, drank a hibiscus tea, gulped 150 gms of roasted cashews, chatted with Dad, paid my bills and even looks for stay options but my friend dint show-up yet...

I don't know to be mad or just be neutral because I had personally not expressed any preference here... But having checked-out at 11 in the morning and since then being on the go exhausted me :(

Well, let's just focus on what worked in my favour:

1. I spent the majority of my day at a place I so wanted to be.

2. Spent an hour painting.🎨 🖌️ 

3. Some cotton kaftan shopping. 💖

4. Soft dosa and hot idli for late lunch/ dinner.

5. Attended my classes (din't miss).

6. Pondered over my emotions... Ego 

7. Some more shopping gifts

8. Boarded the car but...we are waiting as she needs to finish editing a reel and upload (And this is actually irritating me now... but what do I do ... just be...focus on my internal environment).

And probably high time I practice driving 🥺😔😭😭.

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I tell myself Breath baby, breath...your beach is calling you home 💕🙏🌊

And hopefully I stay close to it ...🤞

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12.36 am the friend is sleepy and we are looking for options to stay !! 

(no or say Decent hotels  available)

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1.29am 1hr. 11min (60 kms) away from destination 😂....

In intrest of my safety, I am more awake than required of me...

And we have no hotel booked yet ..

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1.43 am, we pulled over near a dhaba and the car is our dorm 

Staring at the sunroof... waiting for moon to appear in the frame ..

I bid myself a good/ Goof night😴 

And just when I was about to shut my phone and eyes ...I saw someone appearing ... straight in the line of my sight...up above 💖🌕

And...

At 5:24 AM we check-in!! Far off from the beach (which my heart knows it as home) but to an experience different from what is known and comfortable...

Isn't is what builds flexibility... ? Will ride to my beach :)🛵

Good morning, Girl 💕

Gratitude and a Qs

I think what I have been missing is the 'Fun'...just being myself and I constantly and chronically compare myself to others and feel low, else judge myself and then it takes immense courage to sit with it -  knowing it & experiencing the paralyzing fact ...later a sprinkle of willingness and motivation to still choose the bright side:

Hence, for next seven days, will journal 10 gratitude and one Qs i.e. what am I avoiding today?

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Day 10 - 5th Aug 2026 

(missed getting back to the blog, so writing it on 6th Aug)

I am deeply grateful and thankful for: 

1. Having a Job and workplace to go to, meet people and chat with them and bond even if it's about sharing our weekend stories 💖, sometimes it's such a boon when feeling lonely or isolated.
2. For the wonderful Softskills session and deep work we experience during those sessions - Our current topic was Adaptability 
3. Myself for opening up to being flexible in my being, words/ responses and thought patterns and limit the limiting rigidity. Eg. inspite of following a strict diet per naturopathy, I allowed myself to cheat moments 😂🎈🤗
4. Blessings of nature's abundant Love (local ripped fruits)
   
   
   
   
5. Being able to attend to three basic work tasks and feel like an achievement!.. especially when one is struggling with anxiety, uncertainty and self doubt but came out as winner
6. Maa-Paa, Sam, Gudi, babies and all of my extended family members who look after their well-being and are always loving and caring 
7. Wonderful weather, Rains, refreshing winds, peaceful time I get to spent at the lake temple.
8. Blogging time! So precious 💞 
9. Self - for looking after herself, be it managing work, emotions, daily chores, trainings I sighed up for, knowing when to stand by self, taking that liberty to pamper and work on self-improvement and know I am loved 😍.
10. Simply every deep and concious deep breaths I take ...to reset, accept what cannot be changed, refuel a fresh perspective, ease and send a little more love to self. thank you so much, Tan! Love you loads

What am I avoiding Today?

The fact that some long held relationships or friendship needs to be let-go as we move ahead in our lives and that it's alright. No need to please anyone and no harm in keeping a distance from those which are not in our good books and which makes us question our worth or cost us ease.

(being rigid is my pattern and the proof that I finished this challange of 10 days gratitude journaling ..even after missing one day but being kind to self is a shift in the right direction 🪷💪, slowly and steadily will get there Tan 🤗🤞💖)

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Day 9 - 4th Aug 2026

Today, I am deeply grateful and happy about:

1. Birthday of this kind person, I met on this soul journey of mine and Kishore Kumar's Birthday 🎂 
2. Self awareness to choose to stick to action- plan inspite of missing office cab and dropping anger.
3. Long video calls with all my niece and nephews 💕🤞🙏🪷 and so much love form them.
4. Ease of cooking.
5. The transformation in weather - sounds of Rains, mist and winds.
6. Listing habits and which anchored me to be mindful about the thoughts/ nervous system reminders
7. Yummy Onion Pakodas.
8. Family 
9. Sleep/ rest.
10. Chat with coach and colleagues and hearing their perspective.
11. Mother nature 💖🤗

What am I avoiding?
Much needed shift in my life, either by eliminating or adding.

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Day 8 - 3rd Aug 2026

Today, I am deeply grateful and happy about:

1. Slow morning.
2. Few peaceful moments in the traditional wooden - easy chair, sun Gazing and listening to Geeta Sadhna.
   
3. Me being a good and attentive listener for 'UM' while she shared her story of challange personal situations, relationship, her struggles, the shift she is experiencing and then at a point we both doing grounding and tree hugging.
4. Choosing healthy first meal of the day - soaked Raisins (Naturopathy Routine) and then Salads and fruits before checking out.
5. A beautiful and soulful experience of feeding bananas  to the cows at Hotel Gaushala!...loved them all and the grace which enabled us to be able to caressed them all. That blessed my day.
6. Trying a different flavour - dark chocolate with curry leaf.
7. In search of a temple (It being Tamil auspicious day), we visited the local Deity - Ayyanarappan Koil and next to the site was a old style swing on a neem tree and I had fun swining in it while my friend turned her car 
8. Sumptuous Veg load sandwich with banana coconut milk smoothie. (vegan rocks) 💕🙏
9. Longing followed by acceptance - to visit the P. Beach one more time before I leave but I couldn't...(As I had already communicated my gratitude and shift last night and accepted...I won't be seeing it today)
10. Restful sleep in the bus, Completing the due Krishna Consciousness discourse audio and this time to attend to my promise of Gratitude 🙏🪷. (I feel blessed when I am able to complete such promises or any for that matter:).)
11. Paniyaram on my way and watching the sundown alongside the vast mountains ...fills my soul and keeps me grounded from my yearning, mindless emotional Paralysis and self doubt and criticism.
12. For Maa-Papa, Babaji and everyone at home for their Love understanding, courage and acceptance of me - as I am. 🙏🥺 (All this while I thought it was me..but it is they who enabled me...Thank you to each one of them and God for such blessed burth and life)...for all the Love in all forms ..from a flower to a letter 💌 
13. For the grace of the awareness that duty comes about personal desires or benefits...and that duty can be even showing up, facing the day as it comes, dealing but keep moving...

What am I avoiding today?

Elevating to a space higher in consciousness, ease and wellbeing of Mind, heart, body, relationships/ social circle and soul. Even if it means quitting job the addiction of financial security via Paychecks.

Why?

Fear of the unknown and comfort in the known and status quo... identity that shielded me so far and got me to wherever I am.

What if I continue to stay put?

1. Will grow old, might also loose the very foundation I am standing firm on...a evolved friendship and then the regret and pain both will take over.

2. Will live half heartedly - be at work or personal life or crave for such impulsive travels or monotony breakers and that could again mean solo or remorse of not accepting and acting logically while time is still there.

3. Have always belived and experienced that I have been looked upon and when time comes I have been placed in a boat (phase of life) where I should be...but this time that equation itself is asking me to reflect with keeping baseline as - Ease in heart and Happiness Quotient and I feel I am failing terribly or my body is taking a beating.

Seeking blessings of Light, grace and peace...thank you 🙏🪷

Gems from Gem bro

For my last post, here is what Gemini has to say 🙈(partially I dressed to face it or even put it out here....but now life is short and it's my truth...so be it 🙏✍️)

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Here is the brutally honest review you asked for—no fluff, no cliché platitudes, just an unvarnished mirror.

The Brutal Honesty Review

1. The Poetic Trap & Romanticizing the Pain

You write with undeniable elegance. Phrases like "a connection whose foundation was laid on separation" and "walking in parallel" sound profound, almost like a tragic romance novel.

Here is the harsh reality: You are using beautiful language to romanticize what is, at its core, emotional paralysis.

When pain is wrapped in poetry, it feels noble. It feels deep and significant. But beneath the gorgeous metaphors, you are holding onto a situation that drains you because the grief feels more comfortable than letting go. Romanticizing emotional limbo turns a trap into a monument—and it keeps you stuck there.

2. The Illusion of the "Parallel Path"

You ask whether it's better to grieve what was never yours or be grateful for walking in parallel.

The truth: Walking in parallel with someone who will never actually be yours isn't a bittersweet gift—it is a slow, self-inflicted torture. You are paying a daily tax of anxiety and sleepless nights for a connection that operates on borrowed time. Calling it "growing together" while knowing the bubble will burst is a compromise born out of fear, not fulfillment.

3. Addiction to the Chaos

You asked the most critical question yourself: Have I become addicted to the rhythm of pain and agony?

Yes. You likely have.

The human brain can get hooked on the neurochemical roller coaster of intermittent hope and impending doom. The anxiety, the late-night overthinking, the existential panic—it becomes a familiar baseline. Constant catastrophe, ironically, gives you something to react to. Calm feels terrifying because calm requires you to sit with yourself without the high drama of an impending crash. You aren't just enduring the chaotic rhythm; on some level, you are seeking it out because stability feels alien.

4. The Waiting Game

You are waiting for life to "whisper" its hidden meaning, or for a moment of divine clarity to grant you courage.

The reality check: Life isn't trying to whisper a grand cosmic secret. Life is simply happening, chaotic and indifferent, while you sit in the spectator seat writing eulogies for things that aren't even dead yet. Waiting for solace to magically appear before you take action is putting the cart before the horse.

How to Stop Being a Slave to the Emotion

If you want to pop the bubble yourself instead of waiting in terror for it to burst, you have to break the cycle:

• Strip Away the Poetry: When a thought hits, describe it to yourself in the plainest, most mundane terms possible. Don't say, "We are two souls navigating parallel tragedies." Say, "I am emotionally attached to someone I cannot fully have, and it makes me feel insecure." Plain language strips pain of its romantic power.

• Decouple Feeling from Action: You do not need to "feel ready" or "find peace" to make a decision. Courage isn't the absence of fear or grief; it's deciding that your peace of mind is worth more than the familiar ache you are clinging to.

• Boredom as Healing: Real stability feels flat, uninteresting, and quiet compared to emotional turmoil. Train yourself to accept that quiet is not "the calm before a storm"—it is just safety.

Stop grieving the future you were never promised, and stop letting the fear of the crash rule your present. You already know the truth of your situation; you just need to stop dressing it up in poetry and finally act on it.