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Thursday, October 17, 2024
A bond we share.
Tuesday, October 15, 2024
Being heard & acknowledged
Monday, October 14, 2024
Love 24x7
Sunday, October 13, 2024
Language of love...
Today, at one point I asked myself, At what point (if) have I felt the expression of love from Mom or One that I yearn for? say that it benchmarks what my being seeks.
And all I remembered was Love that flows naturally or rather pours effortlessly for animal's
I had felt her aura then, once with fishes at a restaurant, with birds, Dogs and even this encounter with monkeys at Lepakshi temple... how that cranky being was able to surrender to her deep love.
Simplest pleasures ☕
Nothing new about it but a few days back when recalling what brings me Joy... Brewing tea was one of the tasks on list.
Why was this particular tea special to me? Because, I was aware and present in that moment that I was creating for myself. A simple moment filled with life from thoughts, self awareness, love and nurturing.
Also because, for these few hours, I was all by myself (after a longtime), making my own tea, just doing nothing (probably) but letting thoughts flow, and it was a perfect closure to a Sunday evening ๐✍️๐
Saturday, October 12, 2024
My today...
Friday, October 11, 2024
Feeling of 'not-being safe'
A short walk in these wet lanes, roads that are covered with various flowers and having mini puddles at the bevelled and curvy edges on either sides of it.
I had stepped out for a morning ginger chai and returned back to the guest house.
Laying here in my room, twisting and turning on the bed for almost an hour... from some deeper level of consciousness, I was forced to pause and do a simple check-in with self, what my body is experiencing, what signals am I getting, my feelings etc
One by one I started to observe, my eyes were feeling tired and were poppy (when I saw them in mirror), though I was experiencing peace in my immediate surroundings, my heart was vigilant.
I thought inner child affirmations might help and turned them on on YouTube. Slowly, yet deeply the words were sinking-in, and at one point I knew what I was going thru....
A feeling of "not-being safe". And I clearly knew that this wasn't from any place or anyone but presence of Mom around on this trip with me. She is a kind hearted person but while she entered into her motherhood journey, her ecosystem was possibly not as safe or comfortable and her whole being turned out differently, especially for her kids and husband.
And me, growing up in that environment crumpled as an individual, completely forgetting the importance and need for an identity as a 'self'. My innocent childhood was hooked to safeguard herself against the harshness of wounding words, threatening stares, anger, what if something goes wrong, of failing my parents etc.
And today, fast fwd. ~37 years, the palpitations says it all, the uneasiness that I struggled to leave behind says it all. It's not easy...
But I am glad for this elevated space of awareness and knowledge, of tools and resources to change the course...one breath at a time, one conversation (with innerchild) at a time, one forgiving thought at a time, one loving smile at a time, one deliberate attempt at a time -to nurture the self and indulge in all that brings Joy.
(Click from my walk today. Loved those tiny droplets, brighten by the rising morning sun. Those droplets carried and were vibing with vibrant joyous energy)
(This pouring of words here, was one such attempt and none to hurt or condemned anyone, not even in the tiniest corner of my heart)
Thursday, October 10, 2024
A heartfelt...
Drafts after drafts, some half written & deleted whereas some still in thoughts...
And atlast, I found what my heart was seeking - an inspiration that is irresistible...
Where 'I', my or "mine" diminished and 'hers'๐๐๐ฆ surfaced ...
...Smile.
- a token of love... The lotus flower from Vinayaka temple.
- meeting my tiny friend, Baby Swati.
- Sea Shell I found at the walkway and returned, a genius forgiveness for the shell I promised to return and forgot that at home
- Nap next to the beach and under the Twilight sky.
- those moments of connecting with the self .
- Ratan ji Tata's legacy ๐Rip sir ๐।
Tuesday, October 8, 2024
เคจाเค्เคฏ- เคเคฒा เคा เคธเคฎเคฏ เคนो เคเคฏा...
เคोเค เคाเคเคฐ เคซिเคฐ เคिเคฐเคคी เคนूं,
เคिเคฐเคเคฐ, เคซिเคฐ เคเค เคคी เคนूं,
เคเคญी เคोเค เคी เคुเคญเคจ เคो เคธเคนเคคी เคนूं,
เคคो เคเคญी, เคเคธे เคญी เค เคชเคจे เคนाเคฒ เคชे เคोเคก़ เคฆेเคคी เคนूं।
เคिเคคเคจा เคเคจ เคธเคฌ เคธे เคกเคฐเคคी เคฅी...
เคเค เคोเค เคจ เคोเค เคฒเคฎ्เคนा เคเคจ เคธे เคुเคเคฐ เคเคฐ,
เคซिเคฐ เคเคे เคो เคเคฒ เคชเคก़เคคी เคนूं।
เคชเคฐ เคนां, เคฌเคธ เคเคฒเคคी เคฐเคนเคคी เคนूं।
เคฐाเคค เคे เคเคांเคค เคฎें,
เคฌเคนुเคค เคฆเคซा, เคเคจ เคुเคจे เคนुเค เคंเคฆ เคฒเคฎ्เคนों เคे เคธुเคूเคจ เคฎें,
เคฌเคนเคจे เคฆेเคคी เคนूं, เคนเคฐ เคเคธ เคญाเคตเคจाเคं เคो เคो
เคถाเคฏเคฆ เคฆिเคจ เคे เคเคाเคฒे เคฎें, เคฎुเคे เคเคฎเค़ोเคฐ เคเคฐ เคฆेเคคी।
เคฎเคนเคซूเค เคฐเคนเคจे เคी เคเคฆเคค เคो เคฅी เคฎुเคे!
เค เคชเคจों เคे เคธाเคं เคฎें,
เคธुเคฐเค्เคทिเคค' เคเคจเคी เคฆुเคเคं เคฎें,
เคเคฐ เคตाเคฒों เคธे เคธเคे เคเคฐोंเคฆो เคฎें।
เคเคฌ เคตเค्เคค เคเคฏा,
เคกเคเคฎเคाเคคे, เคฒเคก़เคเคก़ाเคคे เคเคจ เค เคชเคจों เคा เคธเคนाเคฐा เคฌเคจเคจे เคा,
เคฎाเคจो เคैเคธे เคฌोเคเคฒ เคนोเคเคฏा, เคฌเคเคชเคจ เคฎेเคฐा।
เค เคญी- เค เคญी เคคो เคธเคฎเค เค เคฐเคนी เคฅी - เคिंเคฆเคी, เคเคฐ เคुเคฆ เคो, เคुเคฆ เคญी!
เคि เคैเคธे เค เคाเคจเค,
เคฎेเคฐी เคिंเคฆเคी เคे เคฎंเค เคा เคชเคฐเคฆा เคเค เคเคฏा।
เคเคฒो, เคจाเค्เคฏ- เคเคฒा เคा เคธเคฎเคฏ เคนो เคเคฏा...๐ญ
Sunday, October 6, 2024
Beneath the surface
Scattered like a fierce rain,
My emotions and feelings, in every vein.
Call it fickle or transient, the encounters with one I refrained!
Tyrant, like a fierce rain,
Washing off' the calm demeanor and surfacing the wrath
My emotions and feelings, in every vein.
Psyche with layers of absolute strangeness,
Unfurling every day,
A new identity in every way!
Overwhelmed, I return to the blank paper
Decorating thoughts like a 'metaphor'
Just like how earth would embrace each season
And finally get to experience rains...
One welcomes healing...
Saturday, October 5, 2024
Those girly stuff...
Friday, October 4, 2024
Main Pal Do Pal Ka Shair Hoon...
I was in the kitchen, baking a millet chapati which has a specific way in which it has to be cooked on a hot pan, by softly pressing them at the edges, using a soft cotton cloth folded in a shape of a bun with its even surface landing at the upper surface of the chapati.
In the background, was a song playing on Alexa -
My chain of thoughts was broken by my mom's presence, she coming on to my left side, towards the kitchen sync and washing some vessel that was in her hand.
I noticed, this was the third time she was washing one vessel at a time and I pointed it to her that this wastes a lot of water and why do you do that?, I have told you to keep it all stacked and I will clean them.
Thats all! and she got explosive and remarked that I treat her like her servant, that I do not respect my own parents, that I am always against her and keep taunting her over and over for every small things, that may be she is less educated than me and probably that is what I consider as an upper edge from that of her experiences, sacrifices. She said, I have had good last one month and do not want any arguments for last few days.
I was taking all those words with a calm demeanour so far, and questioned each one and clarified specifically the one on - Servant treatment and said I do not even think such thoughts rather she needs to look deeper where is it coming from and not blame me or her kids with such baseless blames.
I left kitchen and got back to my work desk which is what I have been doing since I have left home at an early age.
The funny part is when these thoughts find an expression as words, here or on a paper, it haunts me deeper, Tears that I thought have got matured and wouldn't make me feel ashamed of myself start to pour like a overflowing dam. Each feeling becomes a sharp knife that stabs me at the same wound over an over. It feels like every day is extremely uncertainty and why not! may be that is the way God wishes me to be...
Thursday, October 3, 2024
Blessing of having old friendships & connections
Deeply greatful for such an energizing day! A super packed workday, topped by an afternoon with an old colleague and a dear friend, followed by meeting the funds advisor/ friend :)
I am amazed how I travelled a whole circle from that of south to the north of BLR and back, just to get from home to office to the meeting place to another cafe and back to the street cafe and then to MG road and then to metro ๐.
But, none of that mattered infact me feeling so energized to even write this! In wee hours i.e. 11.16pm, speaks for itself.
I feel as if I not even registered anything about traffic, pollution, honking, the journey I made in metro, changing the trains from one route to another (one of the most dreaded part for me, that too at a peak rush hour), standing all thru the journey due to unavailability of seat or rather I was so deeply happy in my head, thoughts๐....after a long time...and I am greatful.
Those talks, sharing about work, hardships, growth, lessons, behaviours, laughter + the pressing need to pack all those stuff to discuss in that short span of time....ha ha ha was madness overloaded.
Building new connections, reviewing the portfolio understanding new terms reflecting upon them was a fulfilling day.
Also, the blessings and grace of God, the minimal financial support I could lend to the needy, in times of crises made me feel more grounded, not because I am able to boast about it or wanted to, but because, I am able to understand my own emotions and relationships with money better and I am able to reflect on opportunities to be more of service than a hoarder which I had started to think and belive for myself. I am loving myself a .1% more today :)๐
thank you God ๐✍️๐
Wednesday, October 2, 2024
A sight to capture in ❤️
Ephemeral Delight
Yup! It is, what it is!. I am living one day at a time but with thousands emotions and feelings. I din't want to jot things down, definately not here!
I just wanted to soak it up all in, gather some courage to reflect on each of them, as much as I can, understand Body's way of communicating to me...take trips to childhood and pull back the one emotionally suppressed and sabotaged one and stand with her...
I choose to get on to embroidery and complete the pending wildflower flower part that was drawn on the crown of letter 'R', a creative gesture to also tell myself - Girl, you are a queen. You are capable, blessed, loved & lovable.
I forced myself to focus on each needle stroke and to make sure that the final out come is nothing like my emotions, rather something that lies deep within; a serene heart, that I have had the luck to experience once in a while.
I succeeded in completing one petal of the flower but I was struggling within, unable to break the silent treatment to self and her.... may be that wasn't intentional but the hurt weighed me down, my confidence to even engage.
I was denied that I could get hurt deeply and get wounded.
It all started right at the time of my waking up and the door banged for which I called it out (a bit rudely), this was the nth time I was pointing it out after requesting her to be easy and slowly shut the door and not bang it, afterall I am in a rented space and for now, I feel responsible to keep it in as good condition as much I can and definitely not damage it.
The reaction was as expected - explosiveness with words of shame and ignored.
I had to pull up all my energy to not feel the hurt, breakdown or let anger takeover...I burned deeply within. All I know was to somehow distract myself and get busy with some tapping exercises.
I felt better for a while after exercise, but my appetite died, I skipped breakfast and got busy clearing the house...more so as I am cleaning a piece of my heart that has lost it's lightness and layered with tar of hurt, pain, neglect and betrayal. I took shower but I don't even remember when and how long... probably I was still consumed by my feelings and hurt.
And that feeling, topped with awareness of loosing precious moments of life, such precious time which could have been lived differently to make more happy memories was all lost or atleast I know I failed terribly and gave up. I know, I have avoided long to tell myself that I have lost it all and I am broken deep within.
The worst is, at such times, all hell break loose and the intensity of hurt magnifies as it recollects the past... ill treatment from others that I allowed, the missed memories from a childhood that could have been mine, a chance missed - a space that gets nurtured in someone's psyche from a healthy mother's love....all without any control or concent from me.
After another hour of self loathing in my emotional tornado, I went to the terrace to attend to a part of my daily chores, to wash clothes. Being under the sky was liberating. It was my safe and trusted space.
I turned on a YouTube video from the channel - "the wholistic psychologist" about how to get out of freeze mode, how to not be reactive... Her words made deep sense and just the knowing that someone understands, helps a lot to hold the ground strong and hang in there. To accept and work on self, even if it feels as though there is no end to it all and atleast this birth may not be sufficient...
Today is also Mahalaya Amavasya...an ocassion considered to be auspicious and to remember the ancestors. I only had one wish and question, pls help me sustain this birth and take me away from this all and if I am the choosen one to break the cycle and reparent myself, allow me, empower me ๐๐✍️
I never knew that knowledge could be so painful yet it fails when in combat with desires and emotions. One dies a thousand deaths when a desire to seek the love and nurturing shoots up but the other one is just not what you expected them to be...
I wept, my moist eyes and running nose - red, breath heavy and throat chocked. Earlier I also has a brief episode of me experiencing trembling in my knees and calf muscle ... probably a childhood wiring of insecurity, fear.
Donno why I am remembering a quote that I read sometime back...sometimes God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers.