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Friday, September 20, 2024

Hugs and cuddles

 I was lying next to mum this evening, after returning from work. 

For some reason, I longed for a warm hug, one that is so pure, earthy and comforting. One where thoughts are wiped off  brain; mind and heart feel home; the whole body is at ease. And that, in my experience, happens either in deep friendships or relationships with a strong foundation of respect, trust and surrender.

In that moment of longing, I randomly look for 'hugs' on Google image search and found numerous couples pictures where they are in a warm embrace, sketches of cuddles, animes, few were of people and there beloved animals. 

Just then, I remembered about a specific black and white picture of a black horse and a baby girl hugging it. I dearly loved that pic and felt as if it spoke to me in a language or warmth that I longed for...I also rememberd, for a long time I held on to that picture on my phone, it would give me sense of ease and comfort.



Same evening, when we returned from our shopping and dinner, I wondered, as a child, who would I run to? Where was my comfort and vibes that of my tribe?

A memory of dark, fearful nights flashed...                I was a little girl of ~7 or 8 years and at night, I would sleep in the largest room i.e the living room/ hall. Some days, In middle of night, I would wakeup in panic and fear, would look for someone elderly around me and if I don't find anyone, I would sheepishly go to the next room which was my grandparent's room, it has two parallel cots and a wooden table in between. Each of those cots were half of that of queen size beds and enough for one person to be able to sleep.

I would softly nudge my grandmother in middle of her sleep, pull that long table and cling to her big round and soft belly and gesture her to accommodate me. Without a word she would tug me next to her, comfort me and put me to sleep.

A tear popped up like this buried memory from my conscience. Probably, through a hug,  I longed for that feeling of comfort, ease, peace and safety. 

Tuesday, September 17, 2024

Binded vs scattered

An observation from my journaling journey...

I use to use an unstructured approach i.e. of loose blank white paper (A4 or A3) sheets to write down thoughts, feelings, etc and later trash them. This method inadvertently conveyed a message of impermance and lack of value for my own thoughts and feelings. 

Eventually, the saying " When the student is ready, the teacher will appear" came true for me.

I met the right people who guided me, helped bring a structure to my scattered thoughts and life, and it so happened that at one point, when I was looking for a paper to pour my thoughts, I couldn't find one; rather I had a brand new notebook lying infront of me, at my desk. It was a gift from a couple friend of mine and had their Goa pictures printed on the cover page. Till that moment, I use to wonder what will I do with that personalized notebook.

But it turned out to be a catalyst and served as a turning point in my journaling journey. I restarted Journaling with a more intentionally organized manner.

And today, looking back at that, the binded note book was a great decision! It helped me reflect on my progress, filter the unwanted noise and clutter from my thoughts.

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